General Writing

Saying Good-Bye

         We all have those years we want to put behind us, and this year is one of those for me.

It began with a series of deaths starting with my sister-in-law; my husband’s brother (who was married to the sister-in-law mentioned above); to the death of a colleague reporter I worked with years ago and ended with the cancer death of a woman who did a lot for Special Olympics.

She left behind a husband and two adult daughters – one has Down Syndrome. I remember this mother opening up her home to serve supper for the special education students before they went to the high school prom. My youngest autistic son so enjoyed this. I recall that night and Andrew’s excitement, exclaiming how beautiful the girls looked in their Cinderella gowns.

However, the good-byes do not end there. Another shoe dropped. My writing partner and wonderful and dear friend is moving far away. We have done so much together, not only writing but also other things together. I will miss her so much, such as going to Spaghetti Works and her ordering peppers and mushrooms to add to her spaghetti sauce.

Life brings changes and writing does the same, such as learning how to write a fiction novel by attending a writers critique group. I also learned a lot from writing conferences, editing and promotional techniques as well as what a writer’s life really involves.

After attending my first conference, I was shocked to find out when an author receives an “advance” from a publishing house if that book does not sell out that “advanced” money, the author must return the sum for those not sold. Is that not sad?

I thought once your book was out there you were on easy street. You are not. In my mind, I pictured authors sitting at their desks typing out their stories and sipping their cups of coffees. I also never thought they had to promote their own work. I believed someone else did that and in some cases that still can happen. However, in today’s world, most authors can say bye, bye to that one.

Several years ago my first book, Seasons of the Soul, was released. I had a book signing at the local library. I envisioned lines around the library waiting for them to buy my book. I had a good book signing, but it sure did not measure up to what I had predicted.

I also had several book signings at Barnes and Noble, and the customer service representative was anxious to have me return time after time. She let me stay as long as I wanted. However, those days are gone because when my historical romance, Lockets and Lanterns, was released in 2010 she actually asked me to leave after a few hours. Why the difference? The e-book revolution took its toll on Barnes and Noble’s profits. Thus again, life serves up a lot of good-byes.

I will miss my dear friend. She, though, needs to go where God leads her family, and we still will converse by phone, e-mail, write anthologies together and attend conferences. However, it will never be the same. So enjoy your time with others for nothing lasts forever and let go and let God do the rest. He will sustain you (if you believe in Him) through these good-byes.

Remember I may say good-bye to this post, but another, God willing, will appear next month. And, as always, I will end with a God bless.

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Stages of Writing a Book: Post #4 (Critique Groups)

In today’s video, Janet Syas Nitsick and I discuss critique groups.  If you go to critique groups, you want to make any changes they suggest (that you agree with) before you send your book off to an editor or beta reader.  (Beta readers can work as a critique partner.)

One huge benefit to a critique group is that you have other writers looking at your work.  

I do believe it’s important to have beta readers who read your book through the eyes of a reader.  It’s also important to have other authors look at it because authors will be looking for storytelling elements and grammatical issues readers might miss.  So really, you need both writers and readers giving you input in order to make your story the best it can be, but above all else, this is your story so take everyone’s input with a grain of salt.  If they’re saying one thing, and you feel like doing something else, my advice is to go with your gut and do what you feel is best for the story.

Where do you find critique groups?

You can find critique groups by doing an Internet search of writer groups in your area.  I suggest doing a search for your state and look up writing or critique groups.  Of course, you don’t have to keep your focus to critique groups in your area.  You can find some online.  There are plenty of places writers get together on the Internet to share and critique each other’s work.  A basic Internet search should lead you to these as well.

Another way you can find them is through word of mouth.  By coming in contact with someone in person or through a social media site (Facebook, Twitter, Google+, etc), you might hear about a critique group.  This is yet another reason why social media is more than just selling books.  It’s a way to connect with people and find resources of what is out there.

What makes for a good critique group?

Honesty is a key element.  You want someone who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth about your work.  You need to hear the truth, even if it stings, and it’s way better to get stung before the book is published than afterwards.

Another key element is comfort.  You want the group to be a positive experience.  It’s hard to get in front of others with your work and expose it to the world.  But it’ll be a lot easier if you are in a supportive and caring environment.  You want to feel safe.  Listen to your gut.  If your gut is telling you you’re in the wrong group, get out.

What makes for a bad critique group?

If you’re feeling rushed or don’t have time to get sufficient input into what is troubling you about your story, this is a possible red flag.  Now, it is important to make sure everyone in the group has a chance to share their work.  This is why I like smaller groups instead of bigger ones.  But you shouldn’t feel like you’re in a race to finish reading your excerpt.

If the other writers aren’t valuing your input, this is another possible red flag.  Granted, they don’t have to accept your feedback.  No one has to do their story the way you think it should be done.  But if they’re arguing with your opinion multiple times, this isn’t a good thing.  Why waste your time giving your input if they’re not going to take it?  You have better things to do with your time.

If someone is treating you poorly, get out of the group.  If you feel like you’re being talked down to or someone makes a snide comment, you don’t need to put up with this.  They should respect you and your time.

How much feedback do you listen to?

Part of this depends on how many people are telling you the same thing.  You might not agree with what they’re saying, and that’s fine.  But if you are hearing the same critique from a few people, at least take the time to think over whether or not it’s worth heeding.  It’s possible they might see something lacking in your story you don’t.  As writers, we can be blind to how a new reader will look at our work.

Another factor to consider is what genre the writer writes in.  If a science fiction author is telling a romance author their story is too emotional (esp. lovey dovey) and needs more action, take into account that science fiction as a genre is more action oriented than romance is.  As a romance writer, I get tired of all the battle scenes in a science fiction book, but I understand battle scenes is something the science fiction reader wants.  So I wouldn’t advise the science fiction writer to tone it down on the battles.  However, if another science fiction writer were to say, “This has way too many battle scenes.  There is no real plot,” then my advice would be for the science fiction writer to carefully consider the feedback.

This isn’t to say you can’t learn something valuable from someone outside your genre.  You can.  Just be aware of the lens that author is looking at your story through.

Multiple formats are great.

Some writers like going to multiple groups to get additional feedback on their story.  Some don’t.  There is no right or wrong on this one.  You do what you’re most comfortable with.   Some people like one group and Janet does several, but she an extrovert and I’m an introvert.  This is one area where you have to do what fits best for your personality.

One thing I do think is useful, however, is for people critiquing your work to be able to read it if you are in person reading it.  I don’t think people catch as much by hearing it as they do by hearing it and reading it at the same time.

The best critique groups are smaller because you can gain more feedback.  Otherwise, you can feel you are rushing through something.

Final thought: Whether or not you go to a critique group is up to you.  In my opinion, critique groups are optional.  (Janet might have a different opinion on this than I do.)  To me, the crucial thing is having a good editing team that includes at least one writer and one reader.  It’s not the number of people you have looking over your story; it’s the quality of the people looking at your story that matters.  I have four people on my editing team (two beta readers and two editors who also write), and for me, that is enough.

So do what is most comfortable for you.  There is no right or wrong way to go about this as long as you’re taking every step you can to polish up your book before it’s published.

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Stages of Writing a Book: Post #3 (Writing the Book)

In this video, Janet Syas Nitsick and I discuss the actual writing part of creating the book.  You will have to find your own way of fitting writing into your schedule, but the key is you need to find time to write because if you don’t, the book will never get done.

So you need to explore what system works best for you.  For the busy mom, that might be writing in the midst of interruptions.  For someone with a “day job”, it might be writing during a break or when you’re at home.  Someone else might find it best to write at night, and someone else may write first thing in the morning.

Another factor is what your goal is for the day/week.  Maybe you want to have a daily/weekly word count goal.  Maybe you want to sit down for a certain amount of time each day/week.

Another factor is whether you want to plot our your book, write by the seat of your pants, or a mixture of both.

Also, some people write only one book at a time, and others can write a couple at once.

Find the methods that work best for you and do them.

But the bottom line is you need to write.  There will be days when you don’t feel like it.  Sometimes, you’ll just have to make yourself do it, just as you’d have to make yourself work at a job someone hired you to do. If you’re serious about writing, you need to do it.

Now, there are times when it really just isn’t working.  No matter how much you try, you can’t write.  In cases like this, find something else you can do during that time to be productive.  This could be writing and scheduling blog posts (which is what I’m doing today).  This post won’t go up until May 3, but I’m getting it set up on April 12 on a non-writing day.  Another thing you can do is catch up on your emails, work on your website, come up with a cover idea for your next book, or engage in social media in a meaningful way (meaning, no games or looking at pictures of adorable kittens).  You can do the games and look at pictures when you’re in your “free time”, not during your writing time.  The writing time needs to be dedicated to your business in some way.

Out of curiosity, what is your writing routine like?  Are you writing all throughout the day like I am?  Or do you set aside specific times to write like Janet does?  Do you have word count goals?  Are you a plotter, panster, or a mixture of both?  What methods work best for you?

Categories: General Writing, Schedules & Routines

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